A Co-dependent is the family - spouse, parent, child i.e. loved one of a person who is using , whose life becomes about revolving around the dependent’s using.
Aliquam ac dui vel dui vulputate consectetur. Mauris accumsan, massa non consectetur condimentum, diam arcu tristique nibh, nec egestas diam elit at nulla. Suspendisse potenti. In non lacinia risus, ac tempor ipsum. Phasellus venenatis leo eu semper varius. Maecenas sit amet molestie leo. Morbi vitae urna mauris. Nulla nec tortor vitae eros iaculis hendrerit aliquet non urna. Nulla sit amet vestibulum magna, eget pulvinar libero.Most times the Co-dependent family thinks that the person who is using is the one who has a problem and has to change. They have done nothing. They are fine. The co-dependent, however, have to look at the traits within himself/herself
Once the dependent comes back home from residential treatment as a changed person, like the Buddha who came home after 12 years - Siddhartha was no longer there, however, his father and wife could only look at him as Siddhartha with old eyes, as they had not been through the process of transformation. Likewise, families who have not themselves undergone the aid of counseling, meditation, and writing, etc . will find it difficult to recognize change as they have not been through that change themselves. In such situations, there can be conflicts and emotional outbursts which is not healthy for the relationships and for both individuals.
They expect the dependent to jump into home and job/business responsibilities as though they have gone through a washing machine and have come out clean and should work now as normal.This may not happen.
Once the person is back, he can go through mood swings, he can still behave like the person of the past in procrastinating things, in feeling lethargy, not wanting to get back to work due to a lack of confidence.
Going out with friends, who are not using, avoiding family functions that serve alcohol will all happen. The family many times feels he should be able to face such situations now that he has taken treatment, little realizing that this sobriety that he has attained needs to be protected and worked upon every single day till it becomes second nature to not find the need to use. This can be possible by only keeping one’s focus on self.
The family who has not taken treatment themselves to go beyond their co-dependency issues many times continues to doubt and suspect the person’s every move if he goes out if he asks money etc.
They even can create situations to test the person by putting him in situations where using is happening or provoking his anger. These are all petty and unnecessary risky situations that are not required for either and frays the bonds that had already been frayed when the person was using.
A Few Dos and Donts’ For The Co-Dependent Loved Ones
You do not need to trust the individual with money immediately but give the opportunity to build trust too. bridges have to be built with each others’ fresh experiences.
We have lived long enough in the hell of our own making in our heads. It is our choice how much longer we want to do so. Help is available in a non- judgemental, compassionate, loving environment where your dignity and self -love can be regained... You need to be receptive.
Managing Director and Counsellor
Primary Counsellor and Facilitator
Since 2003, he has been actively treating those afflicted and affected by chemical dependency using Meditation and Counseling as cornerstones of therapy.
Psychiatrist and Consultant
M.D(Psych) PhD.D.F.M
Dr. Jerajani is a consultant psychiatrist with a niche practice in Mumbai for the last three decades. He has worked in the field of Chemical Dependency ever since.
Administrative Director & Family Therapist
Management expert & counsellor
Vandana Hiranandani is an important part of the team of Anatta that helps organise Seminars, Workshops and Awareness Programs facilitated by Anatta Humanversity.
Director and Counsellor
B.H.M.S.,PG Hom.(Lon.)
A Bachelor in Homoeopathic Medical Science from Mumbai with a Post Graduation from The Hahnemann College of Homoeopathy – London.
Consultant Cardiologist, expert in Addiction management & HIV-AIDS care
Dr. M. Shashidhara Menon trained at the Armed Forces Medical College, Pune (1974) and Institute of Naval Medicine (Mumbai University), India, has done post doctoral Fellowship training in HIV Medicine and Biostatistics from the University of South Florida, USA